"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her." Ephesians 5:25 NKJV

At the end of the fifth chapter of the epistle to the Ephesians, Paul writes about two key principles of marriage: The wife’s submission to her husband, and the husband’s selfless love for his wife.  Chronologically, in verse 22 Paul mentions an idea that has been a stumbling block for many people throughout the ages: “Wives, submit to your own husbands...” Many individuals have a negative connotation towards the word submission, but unfortunately they do not know the proper definition, nor context of the word in this particular verse.  

Submission is the act of accepting or yielding to the will of another person.  The marriage enterprise was created by God in order for both parties to agree in respect and love, but when disagreement is encountered someone has to make the decision.  One of the reasons why the wives are asked to submit, is because the husbands are asked to do something even harder: To give their lives for their wives.  So if a man is wiling to sacrifice his own life for the well being of his wife, why wouldn’t it be fair for the wife to respect and listen to her husband? The reason why Paul is commanding husbands to love their wives to the point of death and sacrifice, is to imitate Christ as He died on the cross in order to save His church. 

The scriptures define the church as a group of believers in which the Holy Spirit of God resides, so it is not an actual building.  If we perceive the church to be a gathering place, a cathedral or any other structure made by human hands, we have misunderstood what the real church is.  Christ died for people, not for a building.  This sacrifice was made in order to forgive the sins of the world, and to sanctify us from sin.  If we accept Jesus’ sacrifice and repent from our trespasses, then, we will be presented as pure and innocent in front of God.  “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be white as snow; Though they are red like crimson, they shall be as wool” (Isaiah 1:18).

- Written by Ray Angulo